We are way past the period of slut-shaming

Thomas Celles

Reporter

Trinity Velazquez

Viewpoints Editor

In modern society, it is almost common for a man to have a double personality. He interacts with his fellow men one way then completely changes his persona when speaking to women.

A prime example of this is the phenomenon of slut-shaming. A slut as defined in Merriam-Webster as, “a promiscuous woman: a woman who has many sexual partners.”

Notice how the word man is nowhere to be found?

There is the cycle of a man trying to sleep with a woman, and if successful, he proceeds to brag to his friends about the ease of his “achievement” in order to look cool.

We live in a society where fear of rejection causes us to surpress our insecurities and put up a “tough front” with our peers. This is one big reason why you hear stories on the news about men assaulting or murdering women who rejected them.

This has created a defensive society where women are taught to protect themselves from the actions of others instead the perpetrators being taught not to do said actions.

Why do men slut-shame, and how do they do it?

It is not that men are looking to purposefully hurt someone. They do it as a reputation booster among their friends. Men, and women, want a self-esteem boost given through the admiration of their peers.

Slut-shaming can be considered a form of bullying, which stems from insecurities. Similarly, bullying is meant to increase someone’s social standing at the expense of others.

Todd Byrd, a counselor focused on helping men deal with life struggles said in “Men’s Journal” that a common insecurity in men is not meeting expectations.

By bragging about the ease of their “accomplishment,” it makes them seem more manly and cooler.

It is more than hurtful. Shaming a woman and degrading her reputation for the purpose of boosting your own helps no one, especially if a man thinks he may have another chance at “succeeding.”

By keeping this type of activity alive, you also make it more difficult for oneself and for others

Slut-shaming is not just outright saying she’s a slut. You can slut shame a woman without actually calling her that.

Phrases like “of course I slept with her” and “hey man, you should hit up so-and-so” are examples of ways that may seem innocent among the “bros” but can be upsetting to women.

The whole concept perpetuates a culture where women are ashamed of having sex and men can be proud of it.

It is 2019. We all need to get rid of this mindset. Women like sex as much as men do and should not have to feel the need to hide who they sleep with to avoid being labeled as being “easy.”

If men want sex, then they should stop belittling the people they want to sleep with.

It just makes sense.

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